2020 brought many challenging events our way:  multiple hurricanes, social and political unrest, and the COVID-19 pandemic, which is continuing into 2021.  In the midst of stressful and uncertain times, how do we care for our family’s well-being? How do we know if our children and teens are struggling with anxiety, depression, and other mental health challenges?  It is common for adolescents to become more peer centered and, therefore, less open with adults.  While some level of stress or sadness can be normal, particularly in these trying times, anxiety and depression are more severe and indicate a larger struggle.  Here are some indicators to watch for:

• Elevated levels of moodiness and distress that persists beyond two weeks.  This is more than just a bad day.
• Isolating from friends and family.  While COVID restrictions have made this challenging, pay attention to changes that are noticeably different for your child and accompanied by moodiness.  
• Frequent talk of worries, difficulty separating from parents, and concerns about the future.
• Dropping grades. Your child may also experience trouble concentrating and/or increased apathy related to poor performance.
• Change in sleep patterns. This may be sleeping more or less than normal. It could also include difficulty falling asleep or staying asleep and difficulty waking up.
• Loss of interest in previously enjoyed hobbies and activities.  
• Thoughts or talk about death or suicide. These statements should always be taken seriously and addressed with a professional’s guidance.  

Families play a significant role in the mental well-being of their children.  Consider these ways to  be proactive and minimize the risk of further anxiety during the pandemic.  

Be proactive- talk about mental health.  Preteens and teens are curious and emotional.  Ask them “have you or any of your friends felt increasingly worried, or sad lately?”  Let them know they can always seek support.  They have online information at their fingertips and easily may read about or look up details on depression, suicide, anxiety or other issues.  While some of this information can be helpful, some information found independently online may be harmful. 

Limit television and news exposure to challenging events.  While you want to keep your family educated on the pandemic and current events, be aware that overexposure can lead to anxiety in all ages.  

Stick to a routine.  Children of all ages benefit from knowing what to expect.  Keeping a structure for after school activities, mealtimes, and homework time give them a sense of normalcy in our changing world.

Express gratitude.  Consider adding routine discussions of what you are grateful for with your family.  Savor the small things- a pretty day, nature, friendships.  Gratitude has been proven to ward off depression.

Stay engaged in extracurricular activities connected to school and the community.  Athletic involvement and activity keeps us physically and mentally healthy.  The arts are a wonderful way to express yourself creatively.  Engaged children are happy children.

Allow children to express anger, anxiety or sadness.  Sometimes we can shy away from difficult conversations. Expressing emotions by talking often allows people to move forward in a healthy way.  Keeping things bottled can be damaging.

Practice mindfulness. Mindfulness focuses on being present, in the moment, with no judgement or worries for the past or future, which can be helpful in the midst of so much uncertainty. ​​There are many mindfulness and meditation apps available that your child could use independently.

Fortunately, the stigma surrounding mental health is decreasing.  Any quick google search, news show, or television series can be found referencing mental health struggles and healthy ways to take care of ourselves.  Our children need us to acknowledge their emotions, show empathy, and model taking care of our own mental health. As always, if you have concerns for your child’s mental health, please connect with your child’s school counselor as a resource for support.  

References and Resources:  
https://www.altamed.org/articles/7-ways-support-your-childs-mental-health

https://www.nasponline.org/resources-and-publications/resources-and-podcasts/mental-health/prevention-and-wellness-promotion/supporting-childrens-mental-health-tips-for-parents-and-educators

https://www.healthychildren.org/English/health-issues/conditions/COVID-19/Pages/Signs-your-Teen-May-Need-More-Support.aspx

With all of the stress and uncertainty in the world today, there has never been a better time to learn about or practice mindfulness. John Kabat-Zinn, founder of the Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction Clinic, defines mindfulness as “awareness that arises through paying attention, on purpose in the present moment, non-judgmentally.” Sounds pretty simple, right? But it takes practice. The great thing about mindfulness is that it is always available. You can practice anywhere!
 
You can practice while brushing your teeth, washing the dishes, or taking a walk. Through mindfulness practices, we can learn to acknowledge our thoughts and feelings without getting stuck. We can learn to focus on the here and now instead of ruminating about the past or worrying about the future.
 
So much has been written in the last several years about the benefits of practicing mindfulness in our increasingly busy and stressful world. Mindfulness is said to decrease stress, improve sleep, increase focus, and improve emotional reactivity and relationship satisfaction among others.

Where should you start with cultivating a mindfulness practice? Kabat-Zinn suggests 9 attitudes that should be incorporated into your mindfulness practice:
 
1. Beginner’s Mind - Be willing to see everything as if for the first time.
2. Non-Judging - Recognize judging thoughts, then keep going.
3. Patience - Accept that things will happen in their own time.
4. Trust - Trust your intuition and honor your own feelings.
5. Non-striving - Instead of focusing on results, see and accept things as they are.
6. Acceptance - Recognize that things are the way they are.
7. Letting Go - Acknowledge your feelings and let them go.
8. Generosity - Bring happiness to others by giving them your full attention.
9. Gratitude - Bring your attention to all the good in your life.

There are countless ways to incorporate mindfulness practices into your daily routine.
Here are just a few examples:

• Mindfulness Meditation - Sit in a comfortable position, and begin paying attention to your breathing. Notice the physical sensation of air filling your lungs, and then slowly leaving. When your mind wanders- which it will-simply notice your thoughts and turn you attention back to your breathing.
• Five Senses - Make a conscious effort to notice the present moment through each of your senses. Notice 5 things you see, 4 things you feel, 3 things you hear, 2 things you smell, and 1 thing you smell.
• Mindfulness Walk - Pay attention to how your body feels with each step. Notice your surroundings. What do you see? Hear? Smell? Feel? This technique can be used in other daily activities

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​Six Daily Questions to Ask Yourself While Social Distancing
 1. What am I grateful for today?
2. Who am I checking in on, or connecting with, today?
3. What expectations of “normal” am I letting go of today?
4. How am I getting outside today?
5. How am I moving my body today?
6. What beauty am I creating, cultivating, or inviting today
 
Mindful Parenting Quick Tips
○ Notice your own feelings when you’re in conflict with your child.
○ Learn to pause before responding in anger
○ Listen carefully to a child’s viewpoint even when disagreeing with it.
 
Apps and Websites with Mindfulness Meditations and Resources:

• Stop Think Breathe has meditations on their website and mobile app, including meditations to help with sleep, gratitude, and kindness.
• Calm is accessible online and as an app, offering a free trial.
• Headspace is accessible online and as an app, offering a free trial and multiple meditations that are offered at no cost.
• Mindful.org offers daily meditations and mindfulness articles and newsletters.

Resources:
https://www.mindful.org/what-is-mindfulness/
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Meditation Apps for Pandemic Anxiety: Calm, Headspace, Weightless
 
Other Mindfulness and meditation apps: Aura, Breethe, Buddhify, iMindfulness, Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics by Dan Harris, Mindfulness Daily
 
Mindful Parenting by Kristen Race, PhD

If you have ever taken a flight, you have most certainly heard these instructions:  “Should the cabin lose pressure, oxygen masks will drop from the overhead area. Please place the mask over your own mouth and nose before assisting others.” The reason for this - If you don’t put on your mask first, you risk losing consciousness and being unable to help anyone else.

With words like “social distancing” and “distance learning” now being part of our daily lives and when we are filling multiple roles that are normally shared, we can find our emotional resources being stretched to their limits. We might feel more sensitive and reactive than usual. We may find our tolerance is low and our tendency to lash out at loved ones more prevalent. In times like these, it’s essential to put on our own “oxygen mask” - to take care of ourselves so we can care for those around us. One way to do this:  self-compassion.

The University of Texas at Austin Associate Professor Kristin Neff, PhD has identified three elements of self-compassion:

• Self-Kindness vs. Self-Judgment. This involves silencing your inner critic and acknowledging that we can choose to treat ourselves with warmth and understanding rather than self-criticism and shaming.
• Common humanity vs. Isolation. Often when we encounter difficult situations or negative emotions, we believe we are alone in our suffering. That we are the only ones in pain or who make mistakes. In reality, suffering and imperfection are part of the shared human experience. Self-compassion allows us to acknowledge that we all experience challenges in life and that imperfection and vulnerability are part of being human.
• Mindfulness vs. Over-identification. In times of distress, we can find ourselves swept up in a swirl of negative emotions and thoughts. Mindfulness offers an open and non-judgmental approach to negative emotional states, allowing us to acknowledge difficult and painful thoughts and feelings rather than suppressing them or overidentifying with and becoming overwhelmed by them.

What are some ways you can practice self-compassion?

• Take care of yourself. We may not take time for ourselves because we think it’s self-indulgent or excessive, especially when we have so many others depending on us. Self-care is NOT self-indulgent. It is essential in times of high stress when emotional reserves are being taxed. Most basic self-care consists of attending to your physical needs - eating a balanced diet, getting regular exercise, grooming. It’s amazing how refreshing a shower and change of clothes can be! Self-care can also involve identifying and meeting your social and emotional needs. Call a friend to chat. Play a game with your kids. Go for a walk to enjoy nature while also practicing social distancing. The key is to check in with yourself and recharge regularly so you aren’t running on empty.
• Try mindfulness. When I suggest mindfulness, I get varied reactions. Some are intrigued and want to hear more while others may be intimidated or think it is not for them. Professor of Medicine emeritus at the University of Massachusetts Medical school and founder of the Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction Clinic Jon Kabat-Zinn defines mindfulness as “awareness that arises through paying attention, on purpose, in the present moment, non-judgmentally.” Mindfulness has many empirically backed benefits, such as improvement in our cardiovascular health, decreased cognitive decline, improved immune response, and improved psychological health (e.g., stress reduction, coping with anxiety and depression). We can easily incorporate mindfulness into our day-to-day lives by attuning to the present moment and our sensations, thoughts, and feelings - just noticing without assigning value or judgment. You can also practice breathing exercises and mindful meditation to feel more centered and grounded. It doesn’t have to take a long time. Five or ten minutes is all you need. There are many mindfulness apps available with some offering free or reduced rates. Some to consider are Headspace, Calm, and the Insight Timer.
• Focus on what you can control, and let go of what you can’t. Often, we find ourselves overwhelmed by circumstances beyond our control. Recognizing and letting go of things outside of our control is more crucial than ever in these times of uncertainty and rapidly changing information. If you find yourself stressed or anxious, pause and consider if there is something you can do to affect or change the situation. If so, identify strategies to mitigate the negative impacts of the situation. If there is nothing you can do about it, identify ways of coping with and managing your stress. Sometimes, it can be helpful to write down a few of your most reliable coping strategies on an index card or a note in your phone so you are able to easily access them. Here is a resource with some great ideas for healthy coping strategies. 
• Treat yourself as a friend. Sometimes, it is easier to show compassion to others than it is ourselves. But it is necessary to treat ourselves with the same love and kindness we would a friend, especially during tough times. Neff shares an exercise for doing just that. When you are having a hard time and your “inner critic” is taking over, consider how you would treat a friend who was experiencing the same situation. What would you say to that friend? Would you berate them and chastise them? Or would you offer kindness and support? How is the way you would treat a friend different than the way you are treating yourself? Once we recognize how toxic self-criticism can be, we can then choose to show ourselves the same care we show others. This also calms your emotional reactivity and allows you to think more clearly about different approaches when you encounter similar challenges.

These are just a few ideas for practicing self-compassion. Keep in mind - it is called a “practice” because it takes intention and effort, but the benefits are worth it. And remember, we can only care for others if we first care for ourselves.

Contact your division counselor for additional support and resources.

References and Resources:
Mindful. (2017, January 11). “Jon Kabat-Zinn:  Defining Mindfulness.” Retrieved March 31, 2020 from https://www.mindful.org/jon-kabat-zinn-defining-mindfulness/. 

Morin, A. (2020, January 4). “Coping Skills for Dealing with Uncomfortable Emotions.” Retrieved March 31, 2020 from https://www.verywellmind.com/forty-healthy-coping-skills-4586742.

Neff, K. (2020). “What is Self-Compassion?” Retrieved March 31, 2020 from https://self-compassion.org/.

Pollak, S. M. (2019). Self-Compassion for Parents:  Nurture Your Child by Caring for Yourself. The Guilford Press.

Suttie, J. (2018, October 24). “Five Ways Mindfulness Meditation is Good for Your Health.” Retrieved March 31, 2020 from https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/five_ways_mindfulness_meditation_is_good_for_your_health. 

Spring Break is arriving at the perfect time for children and families to unwind, relax, and detach from our daily lives. If you don’t have any plans for spring break, and you’re wondering  how to use this time to enjoy your family and shake up the repetitiveness, consider the following “staycation” options. Hopefully, these suggestions will encourage family fun and bonding while still adhering to social distancing guidelines.

Remember that whatever you choose to do is okay. You are not expected to be a travel agent, homeschool teacher, or party planner. Give yourself a break and a pat on the back for continuing to parent, work from home and survive during this local and national crisis. This New York Times article is a reminder that it’s okay if you aren’t renovating your kitchen or refreshing your flower beds. We are all doing our best and that is enough. Engage with your family in a way that feels right for you, but don’t put unnecessary pressure on yourself.  Remember to take care of yourself, staying mentally and physically healthy. There is no “right” way to parent in a pandemic.

Many parents are working from home and serving our community as essential personnel. If your family falls in this category, thank you for your amazing service!    

Spring break is also a great time to get outdoors with your family. The mental and physical health benefits of time in nature are numerous. Even in a time of social distancing, there are multiple options for taking advantage of the great outdoors, including the following. 

References:
BREC Parks and Recreation System. (n.d.) Refresh with BREC.  Retrieved April 6, 2020, from    http://www.brec.org/index.cfm/page/playandgrowprosREFRESH

Filucci, S.  (2020, March 31). Online Playdates, Game Nights, and Other Ways to Socialize at a Distance.  Common Sense Media.  https://www.commonsensemedia.org/blog/online-playdates-game-nights-and-other-ways-to-socialize-at-a-distance?j=7726481&sfmc_sub=170796032&l=2048712_HTML&u=144271724&mid=6409703&jb=230&utm_source=media_nl_20200403&utm_medium=email

Lorenz, T. (2020, April 1).  Stop Trying to be Productive.  New York Times.   https://www.nytimes.com/2020/04/01/style/productivity-coronavirus.html

Temple Health.  (2020, March 25).  5 Tips for Staying Connected while Social Distancing.  Temple Health.  https://www.templehealth.org/about/blog/5-tips-staying-connected-while-social-distancing

Throughout the year, Episcopal teams up with MasteryPrep to hold ACT and SAT boot camps for our Upper School students.  The camps typically are held on Saturdays from 9 a.m. to 3 p.m.  In a single session, students review test content and learn pacing and time management, essential test-taking techniques, tips for the most important question types, and effective guessing strategies.  These camps are very popular with Episcopal students, who rate the camps and the instructors with the highest marks.
 
MasteryPrep is a college readiness company that specializes in helping schools improve their students’ standardized test scores. MasteryPrep was founded by Baton Rouge native Craig Gehring.  The company has supported Episcopal by running our boot camps and supplying materials for other test prep programs.

​​To read more about Episcopal test prep, click here. To learn more about College Counseling at Episcopal, click here.

Today’s students are faced with a myriad of career opportunities, making the question “What do I want to be when I grow up?” even more challenging. In addition, today’s technology allows students to envision careers that may not even exist at the moment. For example, artificial intelligence specialist, social media manager and drone pilot are just a few examples of career options that were unheard of decades ago. As students navigate the possibilities, they need all the tools available to determine their career goals.
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One of the most well-known aptitude tests, the Highlands Ability Battery (HAB), was created based on the work of researcher Johnson O’Connor. O’Connor found that we are all born with natural abilities that make certain activities easier than others. Think about abilities such as spatial relations visualization, concept organization or verbal memory and how they impact your daily activities. When you learn more about your natural strengths in the assessment areas, you can better understand why you are attracted to certain career fields or volunteer activities.

Episcopal’s College Counseling team has been offering students the Highlands Ability Battery for five years now.  The team views the assessment as a way to start a conversation with students who are beginning to consider their future more seriously. “The Highlands Ability Battery provides a deeper understanding of who you are,” says College Counseling Director Justin Fenske. “The results should feel right.” Fenske and College Counselor Shandi Fazely both took the HAB. The two say the results helped them understand how they frame their current roles and how they interact with others. They are pleased to help Episcopal students discover the same.

It’s important to know that the HAB is not a determiner of career options, but rather a tool to learn more about innate abilities. In a research report conducted by Dori Stiles, Ph.D. on behalf of the Highlands Company, the author states that “the more closely aligned a person’s job responsibilities are with his/her natural style, the less time and effort he or she expends. In this way, identifying a natural personal style becomes a self-management tool.” Fazely says the assessment helps students understand more about how they work with others and how they get energy from personal interactions. Combined with other data points, this information can help guide the student’s career exploration process.

Unlike college entrance exams, the Highlands Ability Battery is not academic, and no preparation is needed. Episcopal students are invited to take the HAB once between their sophomore and senior years. The test consists of 19 timed assessments which can be taken online over the course of several weeks. Once the assessments are complete, students debrief with a College Counselor to interpret the results. Fenske and Fazely say those results are often confirming, exciting and validating.

January marks the beginning of the college selection journey for Episcopal juniors. The journey they begin this month will culminate next school year with a chapel announcement and a plan for the next phase of their lives.

“This is the time to be getting on college campuses,” says College Counseling Director Justin Fenske. Fenske says students should be exploring and researching the types of universities available. In fact, he says the upcoming Mardi Gras break provides an ideal time for Louisiana students to tour out-of-state colleges since most will be in session. Fenske advises that a campus tour is much more than attending a college game day experience. Students should register for an official information session or tour even if they are fairly certain a particular school is the one for them. “We want students to be intentional in their decision making and they need the information to do that,” says Fenske.

For those students who have not considered what university they will attend, the College Counseling team offers the following advice on where to begin. “We recommend that students tour LSU, ULL, Tulane and Loyola,” says Fenske. He says these institutions offer completely different experiences and each campus has a unique feel. After these initial tours, students can then begin to explore other state and national options with a better understanding of their preferences.

In addition to exploring and researching schools, Fenske says members of the Class of 2021 should be checking the following items off their lists this semester.

1.       Get ACT/SAT ready.
Fenske says by the end of their junior year students should have an ACT or SAT score that they feel reflects their abilities and college goals. He recommends taking the exams two to three times during junior year with the understanding that students will likely take it once more their senior year. Fenske recommends that students plan ahead for which day they’ll take the test before family schedules get booked and the spring rush sets in.

Episcopal offers a range of test prep opportunities. The next SAT Bootcamp is set for Saturday, February 15th.  During these sessions, students review writing tips, take timed practice tests and work on SAT lessons. To read more about Episcopal test prep, click here. To read more about testing success, click here.

2.       Secure a recommendation commitment.
Later this spring is also the time for juniors to secure teacher recommendations. Students will need to determine which teacher(s) to ask, complete the teacher recommendation worksheet(s) and make the request(s). Each student will need to secure two teacher commitments. While teachers will not write the letters until next school year, Fenske says planning ahead results in a more meaningful message. A solid teacher recommendation letter is an important component of a student’s admission application. Click here to read five tips the College Counseling team provides for creating an application that will get noticed.

3.       Establish a presence on the SCOIR platform.
It can be challenging to remember all of the academic and extracurricular accomplishments that occur over the course of four years. To help with this, Episcopal uses the SCOIR application which allows students to track their activities. Fenske recommends that students visit the site now to log in, register their information and become familiar with the app. This will certainly prove valuable when students begin the admission essay writing process later this summer.

4.       Get to know your College Counselor.
The College Counseling team consists of Fenske, Shandi Fazely and Dr. Alan Newton.  Fenske says now is the time for students and College Counselors to get to know each other. He encourages students to schedule meetings with their counselor now and take full advantage of the resources offered. “The better we know the students, the better advice we can give them,” says Fenske.

On January 15th, the College Counseling team hosted the annual Junior College Night for parents of juniors.  The team also met with the junior class to discuss the journey ahead. While Fenske advised students that the success of their search is up to them, he reinforced that the counseling team and the Episcopal faculty are here to help every step of the way.
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While it may only be January of 2020, May of 2021 will arrive quickly. Thanks to the support and guidance of the Episcopal community, this year’s juniors will be ready to make the college choice that best helps them reach their potential as leaders of tomorrow.

The College Counseling team offers a lecture series to help parents and students navigate the admission process. Common topics include expectations for senior year, financial aid opportunities and trends in higher education. Mark your calendar for the next discussion.

Pursuing the Arts
Wednesday, February 5th
6:30 – 7:30 pm
Aldrich Library
​There will be a panel discussion on art schools and the unique admission journeys they present. Nine members of the Class of 2019 chose to pursue an arts education. Read more about them here.

SAT Bootcamp Evidence Based Reading and Writing
Saturday, February 15th
9:00 am – 3:00 pm
Upper School Student Center

Highlands Ability Battery Introduction Session
Tuesday, February 18th
3:15 pm
Upper School Conference Room
Register to attend here.

SAT Bootcamp Math
Saturday, March 7th
9:00 am – 3:00 pm
Upper School Student Center

ACT Bootcamp
Saturday, March 14th
9:00 am – 3:00 pm
Student Center

College Fair
Sunday, March 22nd
Events for sophomores and juniors take place across campus

According to research from the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics, “the higher the level of education, the lower the unemployment rate.” Higher levels of education also mean higher earning potential over a lifetime. As a college preparatory school, 100 percent of Episcopal seniors earn admission into a university, with many attending highly selective institutions. Episcopal students are assisted by three full-time college counselors who help them through the entire college admissions journey. This journey can be intense, and it may have parents and students wondering, is there a secret formula for getting accepted into the right university? College Counseling Director Justin Fenske shares the top five qualities that colleges are looking for in an applicant. Keep in mind that these qualities can change depending on the student and the school.

When it comes to taking that next step in the educational journey, being able to show that you’ve done well in your high school courses is important. A strong transcript showing academic success and growth is a good indicator to a college admissions officer that the student understands the subject matter and is ready for more advanced college-level course work.

Students should also be mindful of the courses they choose. Fenske advises students to take courses that show a preference for challenging subject matter while also allowing them to be academically successful. He says students should not simply enroll in a higher-level course to pad their transcript.

You have the right grades in all the right courses, now what? Fenske says colleges want to see a commitment to an extracurricular activity. However, this does not mean the student should participate in every activity offered. Fenske says a deep involvement in a few activities is meaningful on an application. He says students can explore numerous possibilities while still in Middle School and by the time they are a sophomore or junior in Upper School they can devote more time to activities they particularly enjoy. Being able to show a progression in involvement over the years is also a plus. For example, a student may start out helping backstage in a theater production and eventually mature to be a leader in the theater department.

Yes, testing is certainly still a factor in college admissions. Luckily, Episcopal has a robust testing preparation program. Counselors help students understand the types of test questions, how to study and how to efficiently manage the allotted test time. There are even test boot camps that simulate the testing environment. Students take practice tests and have the opportunity to discuss errors with teachers before taking the actual exam. This sort of test prep is garnering impressive results. Students are earning National Merit recognition for their performance on the PSAT. Student scores are also translating into college admissions and scholarship dollars.

Fenske says students need to tell their story in their college application, and that story needs to make them stand out among the crowd of other applicants. He advises students to do something interesting that garners recognition beyond school. For example, thousands of students attend a sports or theater camp each year. A unique story would be to create your own camp or serve as a leader at an existing camp. Fenske has also helped students tell the story of juggling a full-time job or extensive personal obligations while maintaining a strong GPA and a commitment to school life. A unique story goes a long way in helping a student garner the attention to earn admission.

The college admissions journey can be exciting and overwhelming all at the same time. Episcopal’s college counseling program is serving students well, with 100 percent of seniors earning acceptance into college, including many highly selective institutions. Fenske says ultimately the counselors want to help students find the best match based on their individual goals and projected career path. Finding that right fit and moving on to the next step in life is extremely rewarding for students, families and even the counselors who have assisted along the way. As the Class of 2020 begins to announce their college decisions it will be exciting to see where the journey takes them. Look for college announcements coming soon and please join us in congratulating these students on completing this important milestone.

The final school bell has rung for the 2018-2019 school year and summer is here. These are the days they write songs and poetry about with vacations, sleeping in, second helpings of dessert and time with extended family. However, for some families it can be hard to step away and relax. Upper School Counselor Jodi Manton offers tips to help parents establish a semi-structured summer for themselves and their children.

1.       Schedule structured time
Manton says a semi-structured summer means that students still have opportunities for learning and development, but without the regimented school schedule. She says in her own household they strive to have one structured hour in the morning and one structured hour in the afternoon during summer vacation. The structure varies depending on the age of the child and could simply include dedicated reading time. Manton refers to this as DEAR time or Drop Everything and Read Time where everyone in the household reads. Middle and Upper School students received summer reading assignments which could be completed during DEAR time. Lower School families received a Step Up packet prior to leaving for the year. Parents may want to use this as a guide for activities and practice during structured times for younger students.

2.       It’s ok to have free time
“It’s ok for them to just be kids sometimes,” says Manton. There is value in free play and free time. During these times of exploration, children experience critical social/emotional growth. As children are given the freedom to make choices in regards to how they spend their time, their creativity and imagination is sparked. They also develop responsible decision-making skills and as they make new friends at camps or other activities they hone their social skills.

3.       Be flexible
Manton says families should make decisions based on what is right for their child and their family. “Listen to your gut and trust your instinct,” she says. She says learning should be a joyful experience and summer is a perfect time to celebrate this joy. Parents should also be aware that summer days can get away from you and you may not accomplish everything you hoped for and that is ok. “Tomorrow is a new day,” she says.

4.       Foster the family bond
No matter if the family is traveling abroad or planning a staycation, Manton says summer is the time to bond as a family unit. Without the stress of a schedule, families can take time to be together. She says strengthening that family bond now will certainly pay off once the first school bell rings again and homework, class projects and social obligations get underway.

However you spend your summer, we hope you make memories that last a lifetime. Before you know it summer will be gone and school will begin again. Have a great summer Knights!