Episcopal Knightly News

  EPISCOPAL
  • Home
  • About us
    • Head of School Corner
    • Who We Are
    • Episcopal Identity
  • Our Program
    • Academics
    • Athletics
    • Arts
    • Spirituality
    • College Counseling
  • Admission
    • Admission Process
    • Dates & Deadlines
    • Affording Episcopal
    • Visit Episcopal
  • Giving
    • Spirit Mind Body Campaign
    • The eFund
    • Legacy Giving
    • Tributes and Memorials
    • Give Online
    • Give Day
  • Blog and news
  • e-Resources
    • Parent Resources
    • Student Resources
    • Teacher Resources
  • Summer Camps
    • Sports Camps
  • Alumni
  • School Store
  • We Want To Know
  • LAUNCH

Seven Tips for Helping Children Navigate Their Digital World

9/13/2017

0 Comments

 
Picture
I remember back when I was a preteen and enjoyed using three way calling - yes, a high tech feature - to connect with multiple friends. We rode bikes to the nearest playground to hang out, and our main video game systems were Atari and then Nintendo, with two player options if your friend was right beside you. Today's preteens are finding their playground online - it's called instagram, Snapchat, twitter, and a variety of other venues. Video gaming is now digital, connecting teens all over the world.  Times and interests for adolescents haven't changed but the WAY they connect has shifted. The online world available to teens brings a host of new challenges in parenting.

As an adult, I enjoy technology, browsing Pinterest and Facebook in the grocery store line or while relaxing after work. The dangers that those leisurely activities present are few. But what dangers do I worry about for our children online?  As a middle school counselor, my primary concerns are the physical and emotional well being of our students. Cyberbullying, online predators, and exposure to violence and pornography can be damaging to their physical and emotional well-being.  
Picture
Picture
How can we, as parents, help our children navigate their digital world safely?  Here are some suggestions:

  •  Communicate with your child .  Join them in their virtual world. Let them teach you!
    • Follow them on social media.
    • Play a video game alongside them.
    • Ask them to share the latest YouTube sensation with you.  
  • Be transparent if you are monitoring your child’s online world.  It's helpful to have a strategy to know what your child is doing online, such as requiring them to “follow” or “friend” you. There is monitoring software available for a small monthly fee through teen safe. Be upfront and honest with your teen about how you choose to monitor their online usage. 
  • Remind your teen that the internet is not private.  Snapchats and photos have a way of becoming public and permanent. Discuss good decision making and judgement when taking pictures and socializing online. Remind them to avoid online gossip as it can come back to haunt them. One way of framing this is asking your child to consider whether they would be comfortable with the whole school seeing a text or an image they are sending. If not, they may not want to send it. 
  • Discuss how to handle communication with online friends that they haven't met in person.  Just as we encourage our children to stick with a group in public arenas, they shouldn't meet an “online friend” alone.  An adult should be aware if they do make plans to meet an online friend in the event that online friend happens to be dangerous and not who they pretend to be.  Remember our teens are children and can be trusting and naive - they require this adult guidance. 
  • Model appropriate technology boundaries. Put your phone away at the dinner table, in the carpool line, and make time for face to face conversation. 
  • Teach your child to THINK before posting. 
    • Ask your child’s permission before posting their photos on Facebook, in hopes they will learn to do the same and avoid posting that embarrassing picture of a friend on Instagram.
    • Discuss when it may be better to hold off on posting group pictures for fear of hurting someone's feelings (ex. A group party where all are not included). 
  • Consider gradually allowing your child more autonomy and freedom online as they become more mature and responsible.  A “training wheels” approach can be helpful. Just as we do not send our three year old out alone on a bike, we may gradually give more freedoms with technology. They need your guidance upfront to develop online etiquette. ​
As adults, educators, and parents, many of us remember the mistakes we made in our youth. Our children have this powerful tool, the online world, where their mistakes become public and permanent with one click. Let's partner together to empower our children to embrace the digital world and make positive, healthy choices guided by good judgement.

For more discussion on safety in the digital world, join the Episcopal Counseling Team for a book study of Screenwise: Helping Kids Thrive (and survive) in their Digital World by Devorah Heitner, PhD on October 19th at 10 A.M. in the Alumni House Parlor Room.  

Sources:
Common Sense Media-  https://www.commonsensemedia.org/
Teen Safe   https://www.teensafe.com/
NetSmartz   http://www.netsmartz.org/Parents
Bailey, Tricia “Talking to Your Kids About Social Media Safety” retrieved from https://identity.utexas.edu/id-perspectives/talking-to-your-kids-about-social-media-safety
Heitner, Devorah (2016)  Screenwise:  Helping Kids Thrive (and Survive) in Their Digital World.  New York, NY: Bibliomotion, Inc.
Picture

Picture

Alicia Kelly

Alicia Kelly has served as a School Counselor at Episcopal since 2001.  As the Middle School Counselor, she has a passion for helping preadolescents reach their potential, academically, emotionally, and spiritually.  Alicia holds a Bachelor's degree in Psychology, Masters in Health Sciences - Rehabilitation Counseling, and is a Certified School Counselor.

0 Comments

Your comment will be posted after it is approved.


Leave a Reply.


    Follow @EpiscopalBR

    RSS Feed

    Categories

    All
    Admission
    Athletics
    College Bound 2017
    College Bound 2018
    Counselors Corner
    Diversity
    Episcopal Alumni
    From The Library
    Giving
    Head Of School Messages
    Lower School
    Middle School
    Project Based Education
    Science
    Spirituality And Service
    Sports
    Student Work
    Technology
    The Teachers' Lounge
    Upper School
    Visual And Performing Art

    Tour our Campus

    Subscribe to our mailing list

    * indicates required
    Email Format

About Episcopal

Who We Are
​
Episcopal Identity
​
Board of Trustees 

Our Program

Academics
Lower School
​
Middle School
​
Upper School
​
College Counseling 

Athletics
Visual & Performing Arts

Admission

Admission Team
​Admission Process
​Dates and Deadlines
​Affording Episcopal
​
Visit Episcopal
​Online Payment Portal

Resources
Employment Opportunities
​​
Employee Portal 
​Bridge Repair & Traffic Flow

Giving Opportunities 

Giving
The Capital Campaign
The e Fund
Legacy Giving
Tributes and Memorials
Give Online 

Explore
Blogs and News
Alumni Affairs
Parents Guild


Contact

Episcopal School of Baton Rouge
3200 Woodland Ridge Blvd., Baton Rouge, LA 70816
Phone: 225.753.3180

Subscribe to our mailing list

* indicates required
Email Format
  • Home
  • About us
    • Head of School Corner
    • Who We Are
    • Episcopal Identity
  • Our Program
    • Academics
    • Athletics
    • Arts
    • Spirituality
    • College Counseling
  • Admission
    • Admission Process
    • Dates & Deadlines
    • Affording Episcopal
    • Visit Episcopal
  • Giving
    • Spirit Mind Body Campaign
    • The eFund
    • Legacy Giving
    • Tributes and Memorials
    • Give Online
    • Give Day
  • Blog and news
  • e-Resources
    • Parent Resources
    • Student Resources
    • Teacher Resources
  • Summer Camps
    • Sports Camps
  • Alumni
  • School Store
  • We Want To Know
  • LAUNCH
✕